What Men Want...

To know what men want.. you have to know what they don’t want. All too often, women give a man what they ‘think’ he wants but ultimately it pushes him away. Listed below are the biggest mistakes that women make in relationships. Any single one of these can drive your man away. If you do more than one the odds get stacked against you. Why? Because men process information in a different way than women. And it becomes important to learn the intricate differences in how men and women think so you can relate to them in ‘their’ language. If you go to Greece, do you speak to the natives in Hungarian? No, you speak Greek their native language. The same thing applies to being in a relationship with a man. Learn to understand how they think and how they process information and you greatly improve your chances of creating lasting love! The list below does not apply to every man nor every relationship. There are still some men that appreciate women and treasure a woman who gives fully of herself! But, if you embody these qualities and your man is not appreciating you the list below will explain why! Don't change who you are - but knowledge is power and sometimes women have to resort to some well-planned 'strategy' to get their needs met!! Men often tell me that they are not 'mind readers' and don't know what their lady wants, so these are designed to help you outsmart the Venus and Mars disconnect in relationships!!! The list below gives you the tools to empower yourself in a relationship by understanding how a man interprets your actions and how to get him to appreciate you more!

Mistake #1: Women who give too much. Giving too much love, attention, support, money, etc translates to your man that ‘you’ and ‘your feelings’ don’t count. If you 'always' put him first he quickly learns to do the same (put himself first) and ultimately he is more likely to ignore your needs. Not because he doesn't care about you but you are subconsciously telling him that his needs are more important than yours. Women think that a man wants the woman who caters to their every need. Well, they may want it, but when they have it they quickly tire of it and take it for granted. So ladies - balance it!!! Give, but also allow the man to give and do for you. When a woman is too nice, too helpful, too supportive or too loving it translates to your man as too much of a good thing. A man rarely sees himself married to a woman like that. Think about it, how many times have you heard about a man leaving such a good and loving woman for a demanding one? It happens all the time. Men like the novelty at the beginning of a relationship of being pampered and catered to but in the end they generally leave or begin to 'expect' it and take it for granted. When you make your entire emphasis in a relationship about your partner; you rob them of a very intricate part of man’s dream fantasy about love. Ultimately, this is one of the primary reasons men leave a relationship. They get bored. ~This is one of the biggest mistakes a woman can make.~

Mistake #2: Women think that men want to hear words of love and endearment. They don’t. Men don’t want to be overwhelmed with words. They think and feel in simplistic terms. For them, actions speak louder than words. When a man ‘pulls away’ emotionally or is not attentive or not calling then the absolute WORST thing you can do is send him a letter or email telling him how you feel. This will push him away further. You may get a knee-jerk response from a man but it won’t be lasting.

Mistake #3: Women think men need to be told how to treat them. Women think the way to get a man to do what they want is to tell them they are NOT doing what they want. This is a HUGE mistake!!! Men immediately turn OFF when you begin nit-picking by telling them what they are doing wrong. The BEST approach is to REWARD your man for his positive behavior. He’ll learn quickly to do the things that you desire. Always compliment your man when he does the little things for you. Make a big deal when he surprises you or brings you flowers, etc. Let him know what wets your whistle.. what you like.. what you want. Give him the chance to PLEASE YOU! Let him know how much you appreciate his thoughtfulness and he will surprise you with more!

Mistake #4: Women think having sex will bring them a commitment. Many women think ‘sex’ is the way to a man’s heart and the way to keep a man. It surely may get a man interested at the beginning; but your chances of getting a commitment by giving the man the sex they desire is greatly reduced.

The better approach is to put your needs first. He wants something (sex) you want something (commitment) - so withhold the sex until you get the commitment or the relationship is ‘secure’. When a woman gives a man sex as a means to getting a commitment it backfires 98% of the time. If she realizes it or not she actually is training him that he doesn’t have to work for sex. In other words, he doesn’t need to buy you gifts, doesn’t need to appreciate you and more importantly, doesn’t need to give you a commitment. All too often, women forego their true desires of having a commitment but they give ‘sex’ as a way to barter for what they want. The majority of time - it backfires. Don’t forego what is important to you by giving sex freely to a man. The best way to capture a man is to make them wait and make them work for what they want. The longer they wait, the more they desire you.

Mistake #5: Women think the way to win a man’s heart is to make NO demands. This is a HUGE mistake. Nice girls rarely finish first.. especially in romance. Making demands is not selfish; in fact, it is one of the best things you can do for the relationship. You set the RULES and REQUIREMENTS. If a man asks you to meet him at a restaurant and you want to be picked up - tell him. If you want to stay home or want to go to a restaurant or concert - tell him. Most women think that men want the woman who make no demands. That is 100% INCORRECT. Men like to know what is expected and they like to cater to a woman’s needs.

~These are the primary mistakes a woman makes in a relationship. My next article will address how you should strategize and once you have attracted Mr Right so you keep him!!~

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Lady Fontaine is a Master Psychic and Love & Relationship Coach. Lady Fontaine wrote a syndicated Love Advice column for many years. More recently she has many of her articles syndicated on the internet and are featured on sites such as Tarot.com, AOL, Astronet.com, Astrology.com and many other sites! For many years Lady Fontaine hosted the AM Radio Show Non-Stop New York giving callers expert psychic advice. Search the internet and you'll find a host of her articles for your reading pleasure!

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