WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT YOUR MAN WANTS TO GET SERIOUS?
I am a firm believer in the Three C's: COMMUNICATION, CHEMISTRY and COMPROMISE. These are the staples behind any long-lasting relationship. These along with a few others are the key ingredients to knowing when your man is getting serious.
COMMUNICATION:
A man who is serious about a relationship knows the benefits of communication. He is ready, willing and able to talk honestly and openly and express the good and the bad. Good days, bad days, stressful days and all things in between. Equally, he is interested in you and how your day went, what you feel and what is important to you. He takes the time to listen when you are upset and hurt. He doesn't want to shut you out nor be shut out. Granted, many men are not good at sharing themselves in relationships but a man who wants to get serious finds ways to share and include you into his world.
CHEMISTRY: More than Just Sex
There is great sex but also great intimacy. There is an unspoken language between the two of you. You can be looking at each other from opposite sides of a room and you are in synch with each other. it is undeniable and gets stronger as the relationship matures. It is different from lust that often exists at the beginning of a relationship and then fizzles. True chemistry is always there and builds with intimacy.
COMPROMISE: He is not afraid to compromise – He doesn't always have to be right. He considers your opinion and values it. He recognizes that it isn't just HIS WAY or YOUR WAY - there is a middle ground and he is willing to find it. Even at times when he feels he is right or wants to do things 'his way'.. he finds the way to make that compromise. A man ready to be serious in a relationship knows that a happy partner is the foundation to a solid relationship. Those men that have to be right or have it their way or always persuade their partner do what 'they' want is not conducive to a healthy relationship.
INTERESTED IN YOU AND YOUR LIFE: He gets to know your friends and family
When a man is truly 'into' a woman and wants to get serious he wants to be involved in her life just as he wants her involved in his life. He welcomes opportunities to interact with your family and friends as well as have you involved with his. If he keeps you hidden or as a big secret, the man is not ready to be serious.
REALISTIC GOALS: He's able to accept imperfections:
All too often when a man is only interested in dating, they want Miss Perfect. However, when a man is serious about settling down, he is more open-minded and realistic. He will accept your flaws and more often not even look for or notice them. If a partner is too critical of you, he isn't seeing you for who you really are. That often is a sign that he is not ready to get serious.
PROTECTOR: He wants to be the provider:
Men start thinking about their career future, where they live, where they want to live and start buckling down more seriously with their finances when they are getting serious about a woman. Those men who are older or financially secure will often begin to look at their portfolios in a different way (either to share or protect).
READY: He is talking about Getting Serious.
When you meet someone and begin talking marriage on a first date or even the first month of dating, these are generally situations that don't last. But when a man who has been grounded and real in a relationship and has taken his time getting to know you and allowing the relationship to build its own natural momentum begins talking about settling down or getting married he is generally being sincere. A man doesn't start bringing up marriage or getting serious unless he is ready. Or, if he asks your ring size or favorite cut of diamond, you know he is thinking long-term.
HE HAS TO BE A FIRM BELIEVER IN COMMITMENT:
Some men are truly RELATIONSHIP or MARRIAGE MATERIAL and others are not. Some men believe in commitment others do not. In order for a man to be ready to be serious he needs to believe in commitment. If he doesn't, it won't ever work.
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Lady Fontaine is known as America's #1 Love Psychic. She is a Certified Relationship Expert and Coach. She is often referred to as THE LOVE DOCTOR!! She has a weekly radio show on blogtalkradio (http://blogtalkradio.com/lady-fontaine). She gives workshops and Tele-seminars on Dating and Relationships through her website at: http://ladyfontaine.com. She wrote a syndicated love column for many years in the 1990's. Her articles have appeared all over the internet on sites such as aol.com, tarot.com, astrology.com, etc.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
5 Myths About Online Dating
5 Myths about Online Dating, By Lady Fontaine, Relationship Expert and Coach
Myth #1: You won't find attractive, successful people on online dating sites
FALSE! Online daters come in all shapes and sizes and career status, just as they do in all aspects of life. The population of on-line daters is approximately the same for attractive and successful folks as any other venue. In-fact, most attractive and successful people don't find typical pick-up bars, or singles events an appropriate method of meeting people anymore so there is more than a good chance that you will find MORE attractive people online than at singles bars or singles events. In today's day and age online dating is the first choice for most people so you will find just as many (if not more) attractive people on-line than anywhere else.
Myth #2: Most on-line daters are desperate people who can't get a date any other way
FALSE! In reality online dating is now the way to go. Current statistics show that over $4 billion dollars is spent yearly on on-line dating services. That is roughly 40 million American singles using online dating services. There are an estimated 15 million singles in Britain. In 2008 they went on an unprecedented 24 million first dates arranged through on-line dating services. With these enormous numbers of singles hooking up worldwide via online dating services you will find the expected distribution of incredible catches and those that are not right for you! On-line dating is now considered the #1 option for most daters.
Myth #3: You can't really meet good people on-line
FALSE. Quite the contrary. Many on-line sites have developed tools to help singles find compatible mates. Using these tools you can pre-qualify folks beforehand. You can search on similar interests, backgrounds or various other criteria to fine-tune or expand your search. Since so many people are using on-line dating services your chances of meeting quality folks are basically the same as using any other method of meeting people.
Myth #4: People don't use their real photos
FALSE. On the contrary, most do. Many use photos that make them look slimmer or younger (who wouldn't??), but most people do use their real photos. What on-line daters will come to realize after they have done this for while, is that if their real intention is to meet someone then the ONLY way they'll accomplish that is by using a current and real photo. But, as with any other method of meeting people, looks is only part of the package. On-line dating actually gives you the added bonus of learning MORE about someone UP-FRONT than many other methods of meeting someone.
Myth #5: It isn't acceptable to meet someone on-line
FALSE. Thirty years ago I met my ex-husband (and still very close friend) through a classified ad in the Village Voice Newspaper. Back then people raised an eyebrow when they heard I met my husband through a classified ad. But, nowadays, it is the norm for folks to say: 'I met them on-line'. There is no stigma. In-fact, most on-line daters know that meeting people on-line can offer opportunities beyond normal dating. They can meet people from any part of the country or world that they normally couldn't meet if they were meeting people through more traditional methods. Articles appear in mainstream magazines and newspapers regularly with stories of people meeting online and falling in love. In today's society on-line dating is accepted and respected.
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Lady Fontaine is America's #1 Love Psychic. She is a Certified Relationship and Life Coach. Through her expert guidance she has over 350 marriages to her credit. That doesn;t count the marriages or relationships she has saved; which she has lost count of! A vast majority (over 85%) of her clients have met their partners through on-line dating services.
Lady Fontaine is often referred to as THE LOVE DOCTOR!! She has a weekly radio show on blogtalkradio (http://blogtalkradio.com/lady-fontaine). She gives workshops and Tele-seminars on Dating and Relationships through her website at: http://ladyfontaine.com. She wrote a syndicated love column for many years in the 1990's. Her articles have appeared all over the internet on sites such as aol.com, tarot.com, astrology.com, etc. Here is a sampling of her work:
http://www.tarot.com/articles/psychics/text-message-relationship.php
http://horoscopes.aol.com/psychics-articles/true-love-key-ingredients
Myth #1: You won't find attractive, successful people on online dating sites
FALSE! Online daters come in all shapes and sizes and career status, just as they do in all aspects of life. The population of on-line daters is approximately the same for attractive and successful folks as any other venue. In-fact, most attractive and successful people don't find typical pick-up bars, or singles events an appropriate method of meeting people anymore so there is more than a good chance that you will find MORE attractive people online than at singles bars or singles events. In today's day and age online dating is the first choice for most people so you will find just as many (if not more) attractive people on-line than anywhere else.
Myth #2: Most on-line daters are desperate people who can't get a date any other way
FALSE! In reality online dating is now the way to go. Current statistics show that over $4 billion dollars is spent yearly on on-line dating services. That is roughly 40 million American singles using online dating services. There are an estimated 15 million singles in Britain. In 2008 they went on an unprecedented 24 million first dates arranged through on-line dating services. With these enormous numbers of singles hooking up worldwide via online dating services you will find the expected distribution of incredible catches and those that are not right for you! On-line dating is now considered the #1 option for most daters.
Myth #3: You can't really meet good people on-line
FALSE. Quite the contrary. Many on-line sites have developed tools to help singles find compatible mates. Using these tools you can pre-qualify folks beforehand. You can search on similar interests, backgrounds or various other criteria to fine-tune or expand your search. Since so many people are using on-line dating services your chances of meeting quality folks are basically the same as using any other method of meeting people.
Myth #4: People don't use their real photos
FALSE. On the contrary, most do. Many use photos that make them look slimmer or younger (who wouldn't??), but most people do use their real photos. What on-line daters will come to realize after they have done this for while, is that if their real intention is to meet someone then the ONLY way they'll accomplish that is by using a current and real photo. But, as with any other method of meeting people, looks is only part of the package. On-line dating actually gives you the added bonus of learning MORE about someone UP-FRONT than many other methods of meeting someone.
Myth #5: It isn't acceptable to meet someone on-line
FALSE. Thirty years ago I met my ex-husband (and still very close friend) through a classified ad in the Village Voice Newspaper. Back then people raised an eyebrow when they heard I met my husband through a classified ad. But, nowadays, it is the norm for folks to say: 'I met them on-line'. There is no stigma. In-fact, most on-line daters know that meeting people on-line can offer opportunities beyond normal dating. They can meet people from any part of the country or world that they normally couldn't meet if they were meeting people through more traditional methods. Articles appear in mainstream magazines and newspapers regularly with stories of people meeting online and falling in love. In today's society on-line dating is accepted and respected.
Lady Fontaine is America's #1 Love Psychic. She is a Certified Relationship and Life Coach. Through her expert guidance she has over 350 marriages to her credit. That doesn;t count the marriages or relationships she has saved; which she has lost count of! A vast majority (over 85%) of her clients have met their partners through on-line dating services.
Lady Fontaine is often referred to as THE LOVE DOCTOR!! She has a weekly radio show on blogtalkradio (http://blogtalkradio.com/lady-fontaine). She gives workshops and Tele-seminars on Dating and Relationships through her website at: http://ladyfontaine.com. She wrote a syndicated love column for many years in the 1990's. Her articles have appeared all over the internet on sites such as aol.com, tarot.com, astrology.com, etc. Here is a sampling of her work:
http://www.tarot.com/articles/psychics/text-message-relationship.php
http://horoscopes.aol.com/psychics-articles/true-love-key-ingredients
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